Thursday, December 15, 2011

The Audience for Relate>Love>Sex -- Have a Hot & Juicy Relationship by Opening to the Love Within©

Following are two different audience Demographics for the book, but needing Relate-Love-Sex for similar reasons: They both have been in partnerships like a marriage and/or have been divorced and are looking to have better, longer-lasting relationships:

  • Baby Boomers
  • Young “30-40 Something” Married or Divorced Persons
Characteristics of the 2-Generation Span Referred to as The Baby Boomers
The Boomers
It’s generally agreed that they were born between 1946 and 1964.
In 2011 that makes them between 47 to 56 years old.
There are 77 million in the US
and represent 29% of the population.
They are defined by their interests, causes, and careers.
Boomers want to....
Make a difference
Leave a legacy
Simplify their lives
Rediscover their youth
Maximize their wealth
Enhance their sense of well being
Many boomers....
The many who are still happily married to high school sweethearts,
have pushed the divorce rate up to 50% and made it seem "normal."
Have been married and divorced more than once
Went to work for a company and worked their way up the ladder
Are retired and living a life of leisure
Are embarking on a second career
Are entrepreneurs
Have never worked for a big company
Never plan to retire
Are transitioning from one stage of life to another
While the baby boomer generation has been credited with an increasing divorce rate, healthier relationships and life-long marriages the second time around are a benefit as well.
Only 39% of Baby Boomers marriage’s end in divorce compared to the national rate of 50%.
“These 77 million Americans have dominated our society for the past 60 years, setting trends and revolutionizing entire industries. They didn't just date, they transformed sex roles and practices.
They didn't just go to the doctor, they reinvented healthcare.
And now retirement and aging will never be the same
as the oldest boomers move into their 60s with no
thoughts of traditional retirement or old-age homes!”
Excerpts from The Boomer Century, 1946-2046:
How America's Most Influential Generation Changed Everything
Richard Croker & Ken Dychtwald
With people healthier and living longer than ever before, the vision of retirement as leisure time is obsolete. The aging boomer population will be unwilling to accept traditional retirement
Copyright 1999 Reed Business Information, Inc.
Think Baby Boomers are all alike? Think again. This dynamic generation is nearing the traditional age of retirement, but is in no mood to slow down.
Generation Ageless: How Baby Boomers Are Changing the Way We Live Today . . . And They're Just Getting Started.

Divorced or Married “30-40 Something” Generation
It is taking the age 30-40-something generation less time to come to the realization that they are much more than their bodies. There are many success stories among forward-thinking, upscale people, featuring the idea that you don’t have to work hard to be happy and get what you want. So their ability to process through growth experiences goes much faster, whereas older people, have had to go through much more struggle and confusion in getting to the same place. “RELATE-LOVE-SEX -- Have a Hot & Juicy Relationship by Opening to the Love Within”© is also for these people who are seeking to start anew on the right foot, re-kindle the fire of a fading romance, and/or turn around a marriage heading for divorce.

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Sunday, September 25, 2011

Answer to Question About Tantra and the Light Article

If you’ve read my blog from September 22, you may have a question similar to the one that one of my readers had.

Regarding the paragraph:

“Sooner or later, everyone engaged in the practice of these techniques will see the light. Practiced faithfully, these techniques not only help to experience the pleasurable release of orgasm, but when mastered, will eventually lead to riding waves of orgasmic bliss. This experience expands beyond what is considered average sexual practice (where within about 15 minutes one or both sexual partners experience orgasm/ejaculation), into the higher conscious realms where bodies disappear and one can merge with one’s partner and the Divine simultaneously –

a point at which sex almost becomes irrelevant....”

“WHAT??????,” my reader exclaimed, “Not sure what this means? Do you dissolve? Disappear? Turn into vapor? Forgive me, not trying to sound like a dodo bird...”

This simply means that the ecstasy becomes so great that even though you are still in your bodies, that as they merge into one (with each other and with Divine consciousness), and although you probably are having sex, you also can just stop and hug or hold hands or whatever, and the waves of ecstasy will continue for quite some time because of the expanded state of consciousness that you are experiencing.

It's one of those things that you almost have to have experienced to know what I mean. So for all intensive purposes, you could actually have the sensation of dissolution, disappearing, and/or turning into vapor if that is where the ecstasy takes you. Just picture a really good LSD trip but on the “natch.”

Thursday, September 22, 2011

Seeing the Light with Tantra-- Sacred Sexuality

The spiritual practice of Tantra* embodies the concept of seeing the light in everyone. For millennia in India, one honored the Divine spark in another with the greeting Namaste, which translates to “The Divine in me recognizes and honors the Divine in you.” It is a greeting still used to this day in India to show respect for another person. Similar to meditation, using the Namaste greeting brings attention to the Light within, instantly putting conscious attention into the mind, or “Universal consciousness” of, being at one with the higher self and with Source. [*Tantra comes from the Sanskrit tan, meaning “to weave,” “continue,” “propagate,” and “endure.”]

Tantra is one of the only traditions in the world that holds sex as a sacred spiritual practice. In ancient times, making love was given as an offering to “the Gods” [or to The One God, embodying all Gods]. After all, according to many religions, God created us in her own image. If that were true, our sexual body parts, and our natural desire for sex, is also God/Goddess-like. Perhaps it was the Creator’s intention to have sex not only as a means of propagation, but to be an endless source of pleasure through merging with the Divine -- an actual vehicle to enlightenment.

The very early practice of Tantra (Circa 10,000BC) encompassed literally all of India until sometime before 5,000BC, when India was devastated by attacks from Eastern barbarians. Temples destroyed, and peoples scattered, Tantra became a lost art. However, over the millennia, its remnants eventually evolved into today’s religions in India

Tantra had a brief revival during the Brahmanism Period (of asceticism and repression of bodily pleasures) as an antidote to the harshness favored by Monks and others practicing this religion.

Very little of how Tantra was once practiced in the East still exists today, but the sacredness of sex is still carried on in Western countries which have taken on the moniker of Tantra as a means to bring sex back into the importance and position which it once enjoyed in the East. In the last 20 or 30 years, Western holistic practitioners have often been drawn to the practice of Tantra and have added their own healing modalities to the mix. So yet a further evolution of Tantra is in process.

One process that did carry over from ancient times is a series of techniques practiced to induce prolonged bliss. Streaming orgasms, as it is sometimes called, is considered natural for women, but ancient India knew that men, too, could learn to withhold releasing, thus creating an opening to experience prolonged pleasure, much like women do.

In learning the techniques for blissful streaming, practiced by both men and women alike, one has many opportunities to offer ecstatic explosions of light and ecstasy to the Divine, in gratitude for the heavenly sensation of merging man, woman, and Divinity all into One.

Practicing the techniques themselves can be likened both to meditation and certain Marshall Arts techniques, including breathing and moving breath and energy up through the spine, passing through all the Chakras. This practice is often referred to as “raising the Kundalini.” It especially engages the vibrational energy of the Third-Eye Chakra – that of opening to “the light” – the Divine spark within.

It is no surprise that the Third-Eye Chakra is also known to be the center responsible for extra-sensory perception -- clairvoyance, clair-audience, and clair-sentience (kinesiological or “feeling” perception beyond the physical norm). The conscious intent of shooting breath (oxygen) and energy up into the middle of the brain also energizes and activates the pituitary and pineal glands, causing a release of opioids -- pleasurable hormones like endorphins and oxytocin.

Thus releasing light or “seeing the light” is a part of sexual bliss. People can learn to focus on bringing energy and breath to and through the Third-Eye Chakra. They can “add to” and visualize the pleasure associated with this blissful center as they roll their eyes back into their head (as though looking at this center in the middle of the brain) in the ecstatic experience of “seeing of the light.” Ecstatic experiences have been painted by the great masters as “looking up” beyond the normal vision into the bliss of the Third-Eye. [In one of Picasso’s early works, we see a freshly seduced peasant girl lying on a haystack, eyes rolled back in head, obviously satiated and oblivious to the world.*] Consciously accessing the Third-Eye Center is magnified by the pumping action of the PC (pubococcygeus) muscle (often referred to as Kegel exercises), as it shoots energy up the spine and to the top of the head.

Sooner or later, everyone engaged in the practice of these techniques will see the light. Practiced faithfully, these techniques not only help to experience the pleasurable release of orgasm, but when mastered, will eventually lead to riding waves of orgasmic bliss. This experience expands beyond what is considered average sexual practice (where within about 15 minutes one or both sexual partners experience orgasm/ejaculation), into the higher conscious realms where bodies disappear and one can merge with one’s partner and the Divine simultaneously – a point at which sex almost becomes irrelevant.

In this rarefied atmosphere one no longer has to have actual bodily contact/sex in order to continue releasing orgasmic waves of pleasure. This “beyond sex” experience – riding the Tantric “wave of pleasure” that exists into Eternity is tapped or tuned-into like a frequency on your radio dial. Once there, very little effort need be expended to continue this magical ride on the never-ending wave of Love, Light and Bliss.

Toni's Bio

A thought leader and expert in her field, Toni De Marco is an internationally renowned seminar leader, speaker, and best selling author.  She has published three books including “HEARTGASM!” — Increasing Intimacy & Ecstasy”© recently published by Hay House’s Balboa Press. 

Ms. De Marco is a Dr. of Metaphysics, has an extensive background in psychology, metaphysics, and health, and is the founder of the Wellness Healing Center.  She was originally a cover girl of “Super Model” fame who went on to writing and producing video and television.  She produced current DVD, “Tantric Partner Yoga,” as a tool to help couples to develop more intimacy in their relationships. 

Having been a well-known cover girl, actress, and author, Ms. De Marco has been in the public eye for years:  She has appeared on CBS’s “Morning Show,” ABC’s “Good Morning America,” and the “Sally Show.”  She’s also appeared on and produced segments of Regis Philbin’s, “The Regis & Kathy Show,” segments of ESPN’s “Business Times,” and the TV talk-show series, “Making a Difference.” Her past and current creations include the best-selling book, “The California Way to Natural Beauty” and its companion, “The Natural Way to Health and Beauty” (published by Grosset & Dunlap), and the DVD mentioned above, “Tantric Partner Yoga.” 

Ms. De Marco’s serving as a counselor and conduit for exponential learning in the human behavior arena, in recent years has expanded into a world-wide seminar circuit in which she established her “Heartgasm Relationships Trainings,” in such diverse places as Sydney, Melbourne, Gold Coast, Byron Bay, Bali, Singapore, Thailand, and the USA.

The book, “Heartgasm!,” and an upcoming DVD series, are focused on material Ms. De Marco facilitates in her workshops about achieving relationship mastery and extraordinarily ecstatic sacred sensual practices.

A Unique Perspective on Sex

Ms. De Marco has a fresh and unique perspective on “sex” – a word that she equates with “sensual.”  She says, “Until a person can identify or ‘merge’ with a higher self – the places possible to get to sensually and orgasmically would be difficult to reach.  Merging with the Divine (continually existing in a state of ecstasy) instantly creates self-realization and enlightenment.”

That’s part of what “Heartgasm!” covers — getting to the ecstasy that is beyond one quick release.  She says, “It is because she takes her cues from ancient Eastern spiritual practices, that she has found a whole new perspective on how really ‘wild’ sensuality can be.  In order to go there consistently in a relationship, it helps to learn to relate (hard to have sex with a partner you aren’t talking to) and learn to love (especially yourself).