Sunday, May 4, 2014
In my last blog (also taken from my latest book, “Heartgasm!”) we talked about taking 100% responsibility for your life and how that can give you ownership of your own life.
Taking responsibility for even your unconscious patterns allows you to own that you are sending out signals attracting matching vibrations, good or bad.
If you are responsible, not your parents, your mate, or anyone else, you can start choosing which signals you want to sent out and that is where we now begin…
Your Cherished Union CAN Be Heaven on Earth
Your Heart’s Unspoken Desire: Finding Relationship Heaven
What does having heaven in your relationship mean to you? What does it look like? How many times a day do you say “If only it were this way?” “If only it were that way?” “Things would be so much better if....” So much of what I used to wish for in my early relationships had to do with “If only the other person would....” “If only my mate were this way or that way.”
It was a surprise to me to find out that it was probably not the other person that had to change, but myself.
I didn’t think I asked for the life I was getting, but according to the “Law of Attraction,” on some level I did. I found out that life doesn’t just “happen to you” – you beam it in, exactly according to your expectations and patterns.
John Lennon noticed that life is what happens when you’re busy making other plans. I wonder if he learned, as I did, that life is a reflection of our deepest sub-conscious thoughts through the law of attraction.
You might call the law of attraction the ABC’s of quantum physics, and according to this law, the vibration that emanates from you attracts or brings in, a similar or complimentary vibration. So what I was beaming out from myself is what I ended up attracting.
This is why the person I needed to change was me! What I learned from my first metaphysical teachers, Joel and Dr. Champion Teutsch, is that if you change yourself, then your partner will shift accordingly. Abraham-Hicks, another metaphysical teacher, calls this finding a vibrational match. The energy we emit from our inner core can be perceived as a vibration and like-vibrations attract.
By stepping out of the little box in which I had lived my life, I could begin to see that, although the universe is infinite, like an infinity ribbon, it always comes back around to its origin. Whether I thought this was fair or not, the universe was always bringing analogous people, situations, things, and a life that I had “vibrationally” asked for, back into my field.
Unless you are making conscious shifts in your thinking and perceptions, you may not feel you are in control of your own life. I definitely did not feel in control.
It was a hard lesson for me to adsorb, that when you consciously shift your vibrational field, the people around you must shift or split away. Why? If that shift feels too uncomfortable for your partner (because their patterns will necessarily have to change to reflect your new vibration), that person may not be enough in “resonance” with you, and will have no choice but to go a different direction. It was through my two back-to-back marriages that I got this realization big time.
My Two Completely Different Husbands and How They’re Being Around Me Turned Them Into Raging Maniacs
In my first marriage, I used to cry myself to sleep at night because the little amount of sex we had in the beginning of our relationship had dwindled down to nothing. The last vestiges of communication fluctuated between being ignored and being verbally abused. Eventually, no sex was the outcome of no communication.
Interestingly enough, my second marriage, even though my next husband was completely different, turned out almost exactly like the first one. I had the realization that if I had the same outcome from both seven-year marriages, that it probably was not about them, but something about me that attracted the same outcome. What signal or vibration was I putting out to be treated like this – to be put down, verbally abused, and not heard?
Hmmm, this sounded familiar – so it wasn’t too hard to figure out. By that time I’d had years of studying with my mentors, the Teutschs, and knew that almost all negative patterns come from our parents. There was no doubt that since my father treated me like this, (put me down, verbally abused me, and wouldn’t listen to what I had to say) that I had attracted men who loved me so much that they gave me exactly what I was unconsciously asking for. How scary was that?
Right after I finished this blog, I found the above synchronisticly-scary photo in the appendix of Ken Rochon’s book, “Becoming the Perfect Networker.”
If this seems scary to you too, then it will be totally appropriate to find out how to start correcting your vibrational signals so you bring in what you really want, which, believe it or not, is what ScaryGuy is about, only he uses different words. In my next blog, we’ll segue right into “Dismantling Bastions of Unconscious Patterns, Expectations, and Beliefs.”
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Posted by Toni De Marco at 11:30 AM